Okay boys and girls time to listen up now. Time to turn off your newfangled music players and cellermaphones and pull up a chair. Just be warned: we might crank this shit up to PG 13.

Was asked to participate (actually it was more like dragged in kicking and screaming) in a discussion about the attractiveness of a potential mate.

There are a lot of ways to connect with people. I pretty much acknowledge the "big 3". I know there are more and many variations, but it all boils down to physical, intellectual and emotional connections.

Having friends mean having the emotional and/or intellectual connection with those people. But being in a "dating" relationship means having the physical part and possibly one or both of the others.

Following?

Having a physical attraction to someone you're dating is a must. There has to be some level of physical desire to make a physical relationship work. You can't fuck an awesome personality. Crude I know. Sorry. Well not really.

I tend to prefer short, petite women with long hair. Does that mean that's the only type of woman I'm attracted to? Nope. But that's what I look for when I'm looking.

Now to throw everyone for a loop. The physical part doesn't actually matter to me. Fucking weird and possibly hypocritical considering my history. But it's true. I learned in high school working a shitload of gorgeous model/waitresses. Definitly the source of my high school spank bank. However there were some crazy ass bitches there. Some real Cee You Next Tuesday types. And some who has less personality than ceramic floor tiles. Looks aren't everything. I learned that ages ago.

Unfortunately that has come back to bite me in the ass. That's why I always end up in the friend zone. I tend to cultivate and prefer the emotinal and intellectual connections I have with people over physical connections.

Now don't get me wrong I like having friends. Usually. But it's the whole escalating the physical part that I have trouble with. Usually. Drunk and uncaring, despite how much trouble I have gotten into, has been amazing for escalating a physical connection with someone. The trick is to do that while not drunk and not in an environment that encourage such things like bars, clubs, parks, abandoned roads behind the house you grew up in, the mall bathroom, etc.

So I guess I've got to turn up the douchebag in me? That doesn't sound right.

But maybe just pushing myself to talk to women where there is not attraction besides the fact that they're hot and I'm horny? That doesn't sounds good either.

Maybe just pushing myself to talk to women period? Establishing a rapport and THEN escalating the physical? That sounds...well not too bad actually.

Urgh I hate discussing dating in such terms however.

Also I have a very good idea, despite my success, that I'm not the ideal partner physically for anybody. Which is fine. They gym thing I'm doing is to get healthy, considering all the problems dad has had in the paste few years, I'd be stupid not to. But it'd be nice to be approached. I like being pursued. So 2 birds with one stone? Maybe. I've noticed results personally but it's hard for others to notice. But Ive ramped things up a bit, and maybe I can get noticed for once. It'd be nice.

There. I hoped you learned something.

That's me, pretending that I know what I'm talking about.